Cherish is my favorite word, and I cherish the ability of turning the routine into a beautiful moment.
Nature creates in me, a spiritual and meditative time to bring peace, harmony and balance, into an otherwise ordinary day~
Mary Howell Cromer

Saturday, September 7, 2019

Missing In Action for Eleven Weeks~

Dear friends, it's been a very long eleven weeks since I last posted for my first 10 year anniversary of my blog with you.  Just prior to that I had announced the very sad news that my twin sister had been diagnosed with small cell carcinoma of the lungs and was given 4 to 6 months.  We hit the 4 month mark four days ago and saw her Oncologist on Wednesday.  He had to tell her that he anticipates that she will more than likely not make the end of the next two months.  Miracles can happen, but she is really very sick and only going to get worse in coming days and weeks.  Being an identical twin makes things so much more difficult for me...for she was the first heart beat of another that I heard, she was the first human touch I felt, the first babbling, gurgling, whatever we do in the mother's womb...she was there with me.  I was born and left her for just two minutes before she joined me in birth.  Trying to imagine my existence without her is just awful.  Being believers in Jesus Christ since a very early age and having a strong faith gives us the hope of eternal life and that we shall be together once again is what gives us peace for now.

The image above is of me with two of our daughters for Mother's Day in case I had not shared it before and then one of myself at the same timing.
I have been missing you and wondering what you all have been doing, and will try and catch up a bit.  Thanking you for your thoughts lifted, your prayers and encouragement through this challenging time~

Remember to double click on the first image, to view a larger slideshow presentation after  you have read the narratives~

I am joining in the fun with Eileen at:
Saturday's Critter

Anni at: 
I'd Rather Be Birdin'
Angie at:  
Mosaic Monday

Stewart for:

My sister, her daughter Tina, and grand-daughter Emma went on a weekend outing together at a lodge at Butler State Park.  It was during this time together that Haze decided that she was not going to do the chemo treatments offered.  She was already too fragile to have any Radiation therapy and after consulting with the chemo specialists at the cancer center, it became evident that her value of life would be better if she just allowed time to be as it would~

The images in this mosaic were taken by my sister's son Roy.  He took her on a three day adventure to Florida in June.  They enjoyed making very special memories together. So very precious for them both~

Last month we had a holiday party for her...celebrating Halloween, Thanksgiving, our birthday and Christmas, just in case... at her daughter Tina's home~

I need the sunshine even more right now, to take a deeper breath and find a way to get through this~

My husby and I took an afternoon to visit the Idlewild Butterfly Farm in downtown Louisville, Kentucky.  Yes that is us, handling some very large insects too.  I held three different species and he held two.  We really enjoyed this place~

The American Robins pretending to be part of the species of Red-Shouldered Hawk...too funny~

Eastern Cottontails~

American Avocet~

Newly fledged Yellow-shafted Flicker~

An American male Cardinal feeding a young Brown headed Cowbird, whose egg had been placed into the cardinal nest by the Cowbird female...they are called brood parasites~

Gorgeous Red-tailed Hawk~

Two individual juvenile Red-tailed Hawks~

There is a Great Blue Heron rookery within 15 miles of our home~

Barn Swallows where my favorite Frisian gelding Zeke lives~

Night Heron hunting after a flood~

A juvenile Night Heron~

Amazing Southeaster sky on July 2, taken at 9:15 in the evening.  Everything had the most beautiful pink glow to it.  Heaven touching earth~

We had a quick visitor one day from a male Summer Tanager in our backyard~

Another wonderful surprise visitor was a juvenile Broad-winged Hawk.  I got to ID from two birding groups on Facebook.  I have only seen two Broad-winged hawks ever~

Also one evening I was just finished with feeding the White-tailed Deer...both does and fawns when I looked up to see a large buck making his way in front of me~

Sunflowers a few miles down the lane from home.  
I had just finished taking these picture, was walking to the car when I saw two farm dogs running full speed towards me...oh my the timing was fortunate for me to get in my car~

My friend Elena, owner of handsome Zeke~

My sister doesn't live too far from the Louisville Zoo and so a couple of times I took a break during the Summer to visit there~

Last month I attended the World Championship Horse Show in the big city, which I had not attened in many years.  It was a lovely evening~  

This would become the World Champion~

“Daily Lottery” is 15 years old! He has been winning for years in different divisions. 
What a horse!  
My friend Sherry who is a horse breeder in our county said "Mary this horse as won so many worlds titles over the years I can’t count them. I believe this is his second time winning the 5 gaited stake. But his five gaited wins in the five gaited amateur division goes on and on. He’s a one-off a kind horse. His win Saturday night was unbelievable as he was by far the best in the entire class. By a mile!"


  1. I can't imagine the heartbreak you are going through. My thoughts are with you and am glad your faith is helping you to cope.

  2. Excellent photos! I am saddened by your news. What a struggle you are all having to deal with. There will always be love.

  3. Thank you for linking up with us this weekend, at I'd Rather B Birdin'.

  4. Wonderful set of photos. I'm so sorry to hear about your twin sister. I said a prayer for your family.

  5. I'm keeping your sister and your family in my prayers. I'm glad you gave us an update. Love the nature photos and the horse show was spectacular! Hugs to you my friend, Diane

  6. Hello Mary, I am so sorry about your sister Haze. Sending my prayers and well wishes for both you and your sister. Lovely photo of you and your daughters. The birds and sunflowers are all beautiful. Love the horses and it is a neat show to attend. I just got back from my trip and I am catching up with comments. Thanks for linking up and sharing your post. Have a happy day and a great new week! PS, I appreciate your visits and comments.

  7. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

  8. Mary - I have been thinking of you every week, when I check for a recent post! I hope you can continue to celebrate joy with Haze. I loved the idea of all the holidays at once! The cottontail collage is adorable - such personality. And I feel for that male cardinal … Thanks for linking to Mosaic Monday!

  9. In this one blog post you've managed to convey the great sorrow and great joy that life holds. I offer my thanks and my sympathy.

  10. So many wonderful images! Thanks for sharing them, those insects are just amazing to see! I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. You are all in my prayers.

    My Corner of the World

  11. Difficult times but you are providing such loving support. I think I would pass on holding the large insects. - Margy

  12. Hello Mary, I am very sorry to read the news about your sister. Such hard times in life. Your photos are sure to be treasured, as are the times you are spending with her. Beautiful birds and horses. The natural world is a place of solace for hurting hearts. May you be comforted by our God of all comfort.

  13. Your photos and collages are beautiful! They show how nature gives you strength and peace. Big hugs with much love to your sister and you.

  14. I’m so sorry Mary and I hope things go as well as they can for your dear sister. I’m glad she has you and her family close. Thank you for the update. And for taking time to share the beauty from your days in nature, which I’m sure soothed your spirit during this difficult time.

  15. Hello Mary, I have been missing in action too, but not for the same reasons as you. I have however followed you on Facebook, and send my thoughts and prayers to you all, especially your sister, and you. I hope making every moment special and creating beautiful memories will sustain you later on. Your images of nature as always are so beautiful. Take care, sending you hugs from the other side of the world.

  16. Thinking of you Mary and of your dear sister.


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